Any of you in therapy? You should be. Now now, it’s not just for crazies like me.
Think of therapy as investing in a life coach to unravel your layers of crap so you can start moving; or in my case, start Grounding.
Seeing that I am a 2 on the Enneagram, aka The Helper (generous, demonstrative,
people-pleasing, possessive); it only makes sense that I would gift you the How-To on Grounding because I want to help. Also, I am an external processor. Okay, I’ll stop now. I’m just transparent and it’s important to me. (Dang this self-awareness.)
This is how I practice Grounding:
First, I look down at my feet and make sure they’re planted firmly on the floor (car floor, hospital room floor, lacrosse turf, Trader Joe’s, etc).
Next, I look around me to SEE what I see; sunshine, or an anxious kid, or a table full of family around the table, or maybe a sad friend.
Then, I take a deep breath in and relax my hands.
And last, I make a mental list of where I am.
That’s it. Just like that, I end up aware of where I am.
In an easy scenario, my feet are flat on my kitchen floor, I’m sitting next to Lily at the table. We’re making a play-doh “feast” for her Calico Critter families. I notice one of her bottom teeth looks slightly off; which means my baby will be losing a baby tooth soon. And, then I notice her soft round face. I take a deep breath in and feel so grateful to have my hands in play-doh, at 43 years old, next to my 5th healthy child, in a great house, with the machine gun rattles of Fort-Nite coming up from the basement, Luci strumming her Ukelele and Honey begging for food.
I lock it into my heart’s memory.
In a not so easy scenario, my feet are flat on the kitchen floor but this time I’m watching Joseph hold his head, telling me “I can’t focus my eyes, Mommy.” Fear from the past claws to the front, trying to force me into diagnosing him, making a note of which doctor I will call to demand imaging. But, no. I remember, he’d just been sick the night before. He needs water. Maybe I do too. I relax my fists and take a deep breath. And remember, we’re not in 2017 anymore. This is 2019.
Grounding is a practice that literally makes a present out of the present.
Grounding is not where you were, not where you will be.
Grounding is about where you ARE right now.
Grounding is a way of noticing where you are rooted and how you’ve established patterns in your life.
I don’t know where you are physically in this very moment. But you know what I DO know about you?
You are rooted in God’s love. You are established in God’s love. And that love is so wide and so long and so high and so deep; right where you are.
Remember that the next time you plant your feet on the floor.