Heart breaks offer a gift. The gift is unique because you have to be willing to open it. I’m glad I took the gift. Now, I offer it to you. If you are in a good place, tuck the notes away for later. If you are stuck in a hard spot, let’s open the gift side by side.
The gift comes when you allow the suffering to sharpen your wounded heart’s perspective. When you decide to, you begin to see and feel how precious time is moment by moment. There’s a word for that moment by moment time approach; and it’s called Kairos.
I had read an explanation of Kairos vs Chronos a few years ago on momastery.com. But, since life was okie dokie; I “liked” it, even jotted down a few notes on it and then moved on. In a nutshell: Chronos is our scheduled time; the day to day. Yes, Chronos is where we get the term chronological. And chronos is the hustle that can rob you of the gift, Kairos.
In one day, I had the honor of being with a friend who does not have much time left to then hosting a “Friendsgiving” celebration for girls who have all the time in the world. I sat with my friend and slowed my breathing to take in how special it was to just sit with her, clearing out the errands before and the to-do’s ahead, to just be with her. A few hours later, my house was full of high school sophomore girls celebrating their friendship with a chili, cornbread and dessert feast for Friendsgiving. Again, I wasn’t thinking ahead to anything. I refilled sour cream, cleared dishes all while smiling from the inside out. Heart break and it’s gift of understanding that now is now, led me to this point.
Now, we celebrate whenever I feel like it. Because I can. And so I will. Wanna now how? I bought this.
It’s just a gold “Hooray.” But I started hanging the banner to celebrate the everyday awesome, Kairos. HOORAY because we are all at the table for dinner. HOORAY because John got straight A’s! HOORAY because Honey didn’t have a nightmare and we got to sleep through the night. Ugh, that should get two banners.
It takes courage to open the gift. I’m not the bravest person so I am especially grateful that God gave me the nudge.
Also, I am no longer looking for the “silver lining” because every moment is a golden, hooray-worthy gift from God.
Unwrap and enjoy.
how the light gets in 